HOW TO BE THE PERFECT WEDDING GUEST
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FOUNDER AND DIRECTOR AT BERKELEY ETIQUETTE
Summer means it’s wedding season! Attending a wedding is a joyous occasion, but it also comes with a set of expectations and etiquette rules that guests should follow to show respect to the couple and their families. Here’s a comprehensive guide to help you navigate the essential etiquette for weddings in the Middle East.
Weddings in the Middle East are often grand and deeply rooted in cultural traditions. It’s important to be aware of and respect these customs, as your conduct at the wedding is just as important as your attire and gifts.
Here are some fundamental rules:
- Be Punctual but Mindful of Timing: Arriving on time is crucial as it shows respect for the couple and their carefully planned schedule. However, be prepared for some flexibility. Use any waiting time to get to know other guests.
- Respect Cultural Traditions: Be mindful of the cultural and religious customs that may be part of the ceremony. If you’re unsure, don’t hesitate to ask a family member or friend for guidance.
- Participate Gracefully: Whether it’s a traditional dance or a ceremonial prayer, participate with enthusiasm and respect.
- Do Mingle Respectfully: Introduce yourself to other guests and engage in polite conversation, but avoid controversial topics.
- Don’t Overindulge: While celebrations often include food and drink, it’s important to enjoy in moderation. Excessive drinking is generally frowned upon.
- Do Respect Photography and Social Media Rules: Some couples may have specific rules about photography during the ceremony. Follow these guidelines and avoid being intrusive. Always check before posting photos on social media, as some couples may not wish to have their faces shown.
- Don’t Use Your Phone at Key Moments: Keep your phone on silent and avoid using it during key moments of the ceremony or reception.
DRESS CODE DOS AND DON’TS
Understanding the dress code is vital to ensure you blend in and respect the event’s tone:
- Do Wear Modest Clothing: For both men and women, modesty is key. Women should opt for dresses that cover the shoulders and knees, and men should choose formal or traditional attire.
- Don’t Wear White: White is typically reserved for the bride. Avoid overshadowing her by choosing other colors.
- Don’t Overdo It: Avoid overly flashy or revealing outfits. Elegance and simplicity are appreciated, leaving the spotlight on the bride and groom.
RULES AROUND RSVP
Responding to wedding invitations in a timely and courteous manner is essential:
- Do RSVP Promptly: Send your response as soon as possible, typically within a week of receiving the invitation, and at least 3-4 weeks before the wedding.
- Don’t Bring Unexpected Guests: If your RSVP does not include a plus-one, do not bring an unexpected guest as wedding headcounts would have already been finalized.
- Don’t Ignore Dietary Restrictions: If the RSVP card includes a section for dietary preferences, be sure to fill it out accurately.
- Do Notify of Any Changes: If your plans change after you’ve RSVPed, inform the hosts immediately to avoid any inconvenience.
ESSENTIAL FACTS ABOUT WEDDING GIFTS
Gift-giving is an integral part of wedding etiquette. Here’s how to navigate it:
- Do Follow the Registry: If the couple has a gift registry, choose something from it to ensure your gift is appreciated and needed.
- Gift Cash Only if Mentioned: In some cultures, giving cash can be seen as impersonal. However, if the couple has mentioned a preference for cash contributions towards their new home or honeymoon, it’s acceptable.
- Do Consider Cultural Preferences: In some Middle Eastern cultures, specific types of gifts, such as household items or traditional items that hold cultural significance, may be more appropriate.
By following these guidelines, you’ll not only enjoy the wedding celebration but also show respect and appreciation for the couple and their families. Being a considerate guest is the best way to honor the joyous occasion and contribute to the beautiful memories of the day.